Everyone knows that divorce brings a lot of changes. However, some effects of divorce are perhaps more likely to surprise you than others.
As a family law firm, we care about more than just the legal success of your divorce case. We care about your total wellbeing. In this article, we’ll look at some of the unexpected effects of divorce and how experts suggest you cope.
After-Effects of Divorce That Might Surprise You
Some aspects of divorce aren’t as obvious in the movies or in conversations with other divorced people. Some of these unexpected effects might be positive, and some negative, but one thing is for sure – you can make the most of any situation.
- It won’t be “over with” quickly. Even if the legal process is relatively quick, divorce takes a long time to settle into the other aspects of your life. Don’t rush yourself or your kids to move on too fast. And don’t be surprised if you have to deal with conversations about your divorce more than you thought in the future. It may take a while for people to hear the news, and you might have to disclose the information in more situations than you think.
- You might be called weak. Unfortunately, even if you feel that you made a strong and smart decision, others may see “not sticking with it” as a weakness. This can be hurtful and frustrating, but remember that you know your situation better than anyone. The weak choice may have actually been not getting a divorce.
- Your friends or family members might turn against you. Divorce can bring some heartbreaking surprises. Friends you trusted might take your ex’s side. Family members might resent you for a decision they didn’t approve of. People might even stop asking you for advice because they don’t think you have anything helpful to say. Be prepared for this, and remember that you are strong and if your friends don’t see that then they are not your true friends.
- Your physical and mental health might be affected. You might develop new eating habits. Prevention.com says that some common health effects of divorce can include: anxiety, weight change, metabolic syndrome, depression, cardiovascular disease, substance abuse, insomnia, chronic health problems, and mobility. Once you are aware of these risks, you can better care for yourself to avoid your divorce taking a toll on your health. Talk to your doctor about staying healthy during and after your divorce.
- Your financial opportunities might be affected. For example, if your income is reduced, you might not be able to get a loan. Consider getting financial advice to avoid some unpleasant surprises.
- You might actually feel less lonely than you imagined. While it might sound counterintuitive to be less lonely once you’re separated from your partner, consider that unhealthy relationships can often be very isolating. Now that you’re out of that relationship, you might feel less lonely now that you can be yourself.
- You might gain confidence! After going through a divorce, you might feel less worried about what people think and more confident in your own strength!
Coping Tips from the Experts
Again, divorce is never easy. But there are ways that you can perhaps make it easier on yourself.
- Seek out a support network. This is the number one tip offered by experts writing for WebMD. Consider reaching out to trusted friends and talk about what you’re really feeling. Ask for support from people who have gone through a similar situation and how they dealt with it. Mental Health America warns that isolating yourself while dealing with your divorce can cause increased stress and reduced concentration.
- Take time to explore your interests. As you find yourself with additional time on your hands and the need for healthy outlets, consider taking up a hobby you’ve always been interested in or developing a new skill! Mental Health America suggests that activities such as taking classes and volunteering can help you learn to live a happy and healthy life apart from your ex.
- Give yourself permission to have all the feelings. Whether you’re feeling angry, sad, hopeless, vengeful, confused, scared, or any kind of emotion – remember that it’s okay. Your emotions are valid and you are allowed to feel what you feel. Mental Health America suggests the practice of letting yourself feel your negative feelings (even if your negative feeling is guilt because you feel relieved or happy to be out of your marriage) and then reminding yourself that they won’t last forever.
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